Friday, August 28, 2015

How do you want to be remembered?

Perhaps it'll seem a bit morbid to some of you, but I've been thinking lately about how I want yo be remembered. I'm not planning on an early demise or anything, but these kinds of questions do plague me regularly. Maybe I'm just becoming more aware of my mortality as I age, or maybe I've always been this way. (I think it's probably the latter.) These kinds of questions hopefully help me make better choices and become a better person in the process. That's kind of the point, right?

When my life comes to an end, these are the things I'll want people to remember about me.

Professionally, I'd love it if people remembered that...
   I believed in others and who they could become.
   I approached my work with a sense of humor, a lightness, that put students at ease.
   I cared about my students as people and wanted to make a difference in their lives.
   My intellect was sharp, my temperament calm, and my demeanor kind.
   My colleagues and students respected (and maybe even liked) me.

In terms of my friends, I'd love it if they remembered that...
   They could depend on me and trust me.
   I made them laugh in some of their darkest moments.
   I loved them exactly as they are, faults and all.
   They were the ones who helped me through the most difficult times in my life.
   Listening to them was something I truly enjoyed.

When it comes to Kelsey, I hope that she remembers...
   My love for her was always unconditional and immeasurable.
   I have always been proud of her independent and feisty spirit.
   I am always on her side, even when we disagree.
   I made lots of mistakes but always loved her well.
   She is the best thing I've ever done in my life, and that mothering her brought me lots of joy.

And for other people I can only hope that they remember me as someone who...
   Was genuine, authentic, and kind.
   Could see her own faults and love herself despite them.
   Was able to learn from her mistakes.
   Wanted the best for others.
   Strove to listen, to understand, and to forgive other people and herself.

And if they remembered my laugh or my dimples or the way I made them feel, then that would be pretty awesome too.

Talk about a deep posting today! It looks like I'm in an introspective phase, but, hey, at least these were positive bits of introspection. Peace out!


  1. this is so great! we don't always think about this in our day to day interactions but I really think we should! do you mind if I share this on Facebook?

  2. Of course, Kim, I'm glad you found it thoughtful. :)

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  4. tiffany, this is beautiful. it's gonna be interesting for you to look back on this with time.

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